Miscarriage, Grieving, and Back to School

Somewhere in the middle of June, a little life began to grow, and for the next eight weeks or so that child was mine to hold and carry. On August 23rd, at eleven and a half weeks along, only hours after our first doctor appointment, we had to make an emergency trip the hospital. We had lost our little baby to miscarriage, and I was hemorrhaging badly. It’s surreal how everything can change from one moment to the next. Around 3:00 that afternoon I was slowly waking up from a lovely afternoon nap. Fifteen minutes later I was texting my

And Baby Makes Six (Midlife Baby on Board)

Do not adjust your computer monitor, your eyes are not playing tricks on you. . .  Yes, people, we are indeed expecting another addition to the Oliver family next spring, God willing! Sometime next March our #MidlifeBaby will arrive and we will be starting the parenting journey all over again. Just in case you need a review of the facts:  Our 3 kids are 18, 15, and 12-will-be-13-when-the-baby-gets-here. We are celebrating our 20th anniversary in August. I’m celebrating my 40th birthday in September. My 18 year old will finish up her sophomore year of college this year, my 15 year

10 Thoughtful Gifts for Run-Down, Stressed-Out, Worn-Ragged Moms

I pretty much stink at taking care of myself lately. I will Go-Go-Go until I am forced to take a break and take care of myself. As I said in my last post, a friend made this observation about frazzled and stressed-out moms:  Generally a mom in that condition has either been running ragged taking care of everyone else, or has been checking out and “resting” in ways that aren’t actually helpful.  That has ME written all over it. I also think moms put off spending any money on themselves. Or at least I know that *I* am guilty. Most

My New, Pretty, Grown Up Mom Bible

When my 10 year old son was just an itty bitty baby, I decided I was tired of feeling like a pack animal. Between the baby carrier and the big diaper bag, the two year old and the five year old, I didn’t want to heft around my purse, too. I decided to carry everything in the diaper bag, and so I switched to a bigger wallet, and a smaller Bible. I scraped some money together and bought myself a beautiful little ESV pocket Bible. It was soft, and pretty, and mostly it was compact and perfect. I could tuck

I’m NOT Doing It All

“How do you get it all done?” <— This is a question I see coming up again and again, to me, to other women. I’ve even asked this question myself. “How are you balancing it all, getting it all done, and keeping it all together?” And what the askers all have in common is that they feel like they are failing, because they are not getting it ALL done, or not getting it done the way they want to, or they way they THINK they should. And I would go out on a limb and say that what the *askees*

30 Useful Tasks For the Overwhelmed Mama (30 Minutes or Less)

I know a lot of moms that feel busy, overscheduled, or overwhelmed these days. Has it always been this way? Is this a product of our current society, with our after school hobbies and social media? But there is “busy,” and then there is “I’m so busy I feel like I’m failing.” I find myself there all too often, and I’ve heard many of my friends say the same things. “I’m too busy to keep on top of the dishes or stay on top of the laundry.” “I’m too busy and I feel like I’m doing a lousy job.” “We’re so